It is an easy escape to say that I have no purpose... yet deep down... if we are not too afraid to look - we will find it. Why are you where you are in your life? Why am I where I am in my life right now? Because we, each of us, have done certain things... because of what we have done we have what we have... but is that all? Let us go a little deeper...
As we do things we do them in a certain way... we are either at war or at peace with our situation, surroundings, circumstances, companions etc... This is called our Way of Being and this is who we are being in any given moment.
From who we are being in the moment as we do certain things we reap the rewards and we harrow the hardships that are coming as a result. If we do the right things but do them from a place of war we shoot ourselves in the foot.
Would you have a happy relationship in your life? How do you have that? Well... in order to have a relationship you must do certain things. In the case of a relationship you must make time for your partner, you must spend time together. You should do things that they like to do. There are always things you can do in order to have a relationship... but this is not where the real relationship grows... it has only a little bit to do with doing.
Relationships are driven by what is deeper... and deeper is being. If you make time to spend with your partner and as you spend your time with them you make sure that they know what a "sacrifice" it is from your day to have to spend time with them... and insinuate by your attitude that you are such a "good person" for having done so... it will not be long before you are single again. Although outwardly your actions were "correct," inwardly your heart was swinging at them emotionally... you were engaged in a war at the deepest level and it bled through. If you were to ask your partner after that time spent together do you think they would see the "sacrifice" you made or would they simply see an "insensitive jerk"?
Notice your being in the moment. Are you at war or are you at peace? Are you seeing others as human, as people - with hopes, fears, needs and desires? Or are you seeing them as objects - irrelevancies, tools, vehicles, obstacles... What you have will change drastically as you focus on your being as opposed to your doing. All of the doing in the world will avail you nothing if you being is askew. What are you being? Who are you being that way toward? Are you at war with some and at peace with others?
You possess the key to your own liberation... peace is but a sense away - the only problem is... in order to access that sense you must first begin to see the object of your hate... of your passion... as a person once again - and there is nothing more detestable in our minds. Why would we consider someone so "inconsiderate" or "stupid" or "rude" or any other number of expletives as a person?? In so doing we open our hearts to peace and in that moment of peace we have a sense of what we can do - if we choose to honor that sense we will have obtained a peace that few can match... if we choose to betray that sense we choose to go right back to war. The important thing to remember is that it is our war... and no one else can make the decision to go to war in our lives but us... no one else can make the decision to declare peace and remain serene of soul. That should be liberating! We hold the keys to the cages of our own self-imprisonment, of our own self-delusionment, of our own self-deception.
May you surround yourself with places, peoples, and things which keep you at peace - for it is from these places of power, these places of peace that we can begin to see others as people once again. God bless you in your endeavors so to do. See you in a week...
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